“Many well intentioned followers of Jesus think that forgiving comes in the form of ignoring. “Pretend it didn’t happen,” they’ll say. Or, “They probably didn’t mean it.” This is simply a cheap way of excusing someone’s bad behavior. And while doing so may make you feel like a bigger, more spiritual person, in truth you are not. This way of responding or talking falls way short of the high standard that Jesus sets for forgiveness. To forgive someone goes far beyond just excusing their behavior and moving on.” from The Art of Neighboring by Pathak and Runyon.
That’s well put. It’s about foolishly being nice when you are called to demonstrate love. I’ve seen lots of damage inflicted on relationships and ministries because people excuse bad behavior (and then take it further and go after someone who won’t.)
For the sake of the Kingdom of God, please heed it!
But when we don’t, God is still good!